“There is no solution to our emotions except to feel them, even the hard ones, especially the hard ones.”

I figured out one more thing – the most difficult and the most healing – while walking through a decade of deadness. I had to get out of my crazy head and deal with my broken heart. 

The Bible says take every thought captive, but I couldn’t do it (I tried hard) until my heart wasn’t captive. Getting better meant I had to feel my feelings, deal with and reveal them, and heal from the difficult ones. 

Healing didn’t mean my emotions would go away. It meant I accepted and maybe even appreciated the painful ones that wreaked havoc. I accepted healing as a process, a long one. I accepted that other people may not like or agree with how I felt or how I healed. 

I got honest about my emotions with myself first and then with other people. Not with everyone, but the people who mattered most. I pushed through the urge to not feel even when those people didn’t want anything to do with my emotions or their own. I talked about how I felt because hope happens when we talk and listen. 

It seemed appropriate to wind down the chapter “Dead for a Decade” by talking about feeling because we can’t feel alive if we don’t feel at all. 

Thanks for being here and commenting if you feel like it. See you on Monday. 

In This Together,
Kim

Parts of this story are excerpts from a blog post I wrote in 2019

FYI: I’m blogging my book titled On The Other Side of Trying Hard: Healing, Happiness, and Holiness. Because these blog posts are a manuscript instead of stand-alone stories, some posts may leave you hanging. I hope you’ll hang in here with us anyway ‘cause a happy ending is coming. My blog post title includes the chapter title first. The phrase in parentheses is the subheading. I’m over-the-top grateful to have you here. I’d love to hear your reflections, questions, and comments.