by skimhenson | Jun 1, 2020 | pain, quiet, relationships, parent and child
“Healing is an inside job.” B. J. Palmer Every Mother’s Day is a reminder of what a counselor told me 39 years ago, “Until you make peace with your mother, you’ll never be at peace with yourself.” After trying and failing to make peace face-to-face with Mom and...
by skimhenson | Aug 26, 2016 | freedom, getting your own life, letting go, relationships, relationships, parent and child
“If we had God’s power, we would change everything. If we had God’s wisdom, we’d change nothing.” Scott Richardson If you’re a parent, especially a mother, you likely know the feeling when family gathers all together after not seeing...
by skimhenson | May 20, 2016 | awareness and action, boundaries, getting your own life, relationships, parent and child
“We cripple people who are capable of walking because we choose to carry them.” Christie Williams Enabling is one of the surest ways to assure not getting your own life. Enabling goes hand-in-hand with not setting boundaries – two sides of the same coin. Like the...
by skimhenson | May 6, 2016 | awareness and action, getting your own life, relationships, parent and child
“Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent.” Carl Gustav Jung For years, I convinced myself I’d have time and energy to accomplish something impressive if only my family...
by skimhenson | Aug 5, 2015 | relationships, parent and child, shame
“Ironically, parenting is a shame and judgment minefield precisely because most of us are wading through uncertainty and self-doubt when it comes to raising our children.” Brene Brown I was at dinner one evening with a group of friends who I’ve hung out with since...
by skimhenson | Jul 22, 2013 | depression, listening and talking, relationships, parent and child
Until I recently posted about it on my blog, I’ve been ashamed to admit estrangement from my mom. I blamed myself for the lack of relationship and struggled with thoughts that no one would like me since it seemed I wasn’t liked by Mom. I’ve been unable to...