Dead for a Decade (and I couldn’t save us), part 7
“It’s hard to save the world when you can’t save yourself.” Author Carrie Jones (Some references at the beginning are from the past couple of blog posts.) Hearing the saying for myself – “a turn of events” – left me questioning how to help other people who struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts, how...
Dead for a Decade (I couldn’t tell you what was so wrong either …), part 6
“Don’t let this be the last page of your story, but the start of your next chapter.” Jennifer Betts I couldn’t tell you what was so wrong either. Neither could my mom even though she threatened suicide more than once. Her bent toward that option made me wonder about her mom dying so young. When I asked Mom what happened to my...
Dead for a Decade (really, what was so wrong?), part 5
“Even our darkest thoughts will never separate us from the love of God. He is with us in the wilderness, and He is with us as we wrestle with our brokenness.” Kayla Stoecklein from Fear Gone Wild: A Story of Mental Illness, Suicide, and Hope Through Loss When I read about astronaut Charlie Duke speaking at our church for the 50th anniversary...
Dead for a Decade (what was so wrong?), part 4
“Life is only a long and bitter suicide, and faith alone can transform this suicide into a sacrifice.” Franz Liszt Anytime someone commits suicide, people ask, “What was so wrong that they’d kill themselves?” A family member asked the same thing when he found out I contemplated suicide. A lot more people consider it than are willing to admit...
Dead for a Decade (deadening the life we have), part 3
“The tragedy of life is not death but what we let die inside of us while we live.” Norman Cousins Just like denial doesn’t work, neither does deadening parts of us that we don’t like, can’t accept, or can’t change. It’s damaging at best, deadly at its worst. The last time I saw my friend, I pulled up a chair to his mahogany table to...
Dead For A Decade (denying ourselves a life), part 2
“If you spend your life denying you have a problem, you’ll end up denying yourself a life.” Unknown Before my mom’s brother moved in with us, she had him institutionalized several times for depression, suicide threats, and bizarre behavior like running around naked in his neighborhood. He stood for hours in our kitchen while we ate,...
Dead for a Decade (18 years later), part 1
“It would be impossible to estimate how much time and energy we invest in trying to fix, change, and deny our emotions ... ” Debbie Ford Until a friend private messaged that she'd been reading my blog for months, I had no idea how long I'd struggled with depression, denial, and feeling dead. I tried hard to not feel those things for so long, I...












