I Have Never Once Been Sorry (about setting boundaries)
“I know my boundaries and one day I might just enforce them.” Unknown I curled up under the blanket on our living room sofa and ate Reese’s Cups while mulling over what went wrong. The conversation with John was okay until we each made a comment the other one didn’t like. I took something he said the wrong way. I apologized for my tone, and I...
Enabled to Stop Enabling
“We cripple people who are capable of walking because we choose to carry them.” Christie Williams Enabling is one of the surest ways to assure not getting your own life. Enabling goes hand-in-hand with not setting boundaries – two sides of the same coin. Like the quote says, we have to say “no” or we do damage. We cripple people, and usually...
Boundaries or Bound by Others? (it’s your choice)
“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” Tony Gaskins I had never heard the word boundaries used in reference to relationships until a counselor told me I didn’t have any. She said, “You have no idea where you end and where others begin.” According to Merriam-Webster, here are the...
They Needed to Get Better
“Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent.” Carl Gustav Jung For years, I convinced myself I’d have time and energy to accomplish something impressive if only my family would get better. I blamed my lack of motivation and creativity on their...
The Life You Want, But Can’t Have (oh, but maybe you can …)
“You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.” Joseph Campbell I doubt I’d remember my dog being hit by a car since I was only three except I heard the story dozens of times. I think Mom repeated it to prove her point about being cautious with hope. The afternoon my uncle brought the puppy home, I...
Hope For the Unheard
“It is not distance that keeps people apart, but lack of communication.” Unknown Here’s the post I didn’t write last week, but meant to. It’s the one about our communication that hasn’t taken place … for three years. I started not to write it this week either, except a friend commented on last week’s post, “Sometimes, even when you say it,...
Can You Hear Me Now?
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” George Bernard Shaw On our way home from church Sunday afternoon, John asked where I wanted to eat. We were close by a cafeteria we used to frequent, so I mentioned stopping by to see if the place looked clean and the food fresh. John named a few...
Hi, I’m Kim.
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