Listening to Understand
“The biggest problem with communication is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.” Unknown A couple of blog posts ago, I shared inside one of our arguments titled, I’m Posting on Friday Because … This week I’m sharing more about communication between John and me. I wouldn’t put much of this in writing if I thought we were...
What Happened That Was So Bad?
“The real violence, the violence I realized that is unforgivable, is the violence we do to ourselves when we’re too afraid to be who we really are.” Unknown While a friend and I talked about depression, she asked about my past and said, “What happened that was so bad?” Although whining and blaming are unattractive, I didn’t mind a...
I’m Posting on Friday Because … (inside one of our arguments)
“The aim of an argument, or of a discussion, should not be victory, but progress.” Joseph Joubert I’ve seldom let anyone inside one of our arguments. They are too painful even if we say it’s about hair, which this one was. Of course, hair is not what escalates the argument and it’s not what causes the pain. The argument and the pain...
A Pot of Gold at the End of Envy
“Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they're big, flashing signs that something needs to change.” Gretchen Rubin I don’t often mess with envy since reading an article about Reverend Ike, a minister known for his controversial prosperity theory. He was a poor preacher in the city of...
Isolated or Insulated (living safe with people)
“I feel safer keeping a space, a gentle breeze between me and people, a buffer I like to think of as God.” S. Kim Henson When John accused me of isolating, he mixed up his words and instead said, “It concerns me how much you’re insulating yourself from others.” “I know you don’t mean that as a good thing, but insulating to me sounds like a...
From Our Knees (coming around to prayer)
“When the stakes are high bow down low.” Beth Moore It’s been two years since John and I bent down at the end of our bed and said our first prayer together. I mean, we prayed at church and sometimes before meals, but this was our first joint appeal to God. We couldn’t be more different in so many ways. He’s an early bird and I’m a night owl,...
You Complete Me (or maybe not …)
“Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.” Antoine De Saint-Exupery For a man to complete me, he’d have to weigh a ton, which reminds me of Sawyer Brown’s song, 800 Pound Jesus. Prince Charming couldn’t come close. Neither could a knight on his white horse. My...
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