“Get out from your house, from your cave, from your car. Get out from the place you feel safe, from the place that you are. Get out and go running, go funning, go wild. Get out from your head, get growing, dear child.” Unknown
Last week, I vlogged about our minister getting a nudge from God when he asked what to do next with his life. He “heard” go to a football game, get to know people, and talk about relationships, especially the one with God. It sounded simple enough until he pulled into the stadium parking lot and drove around and around instead of going in. That’s when he heard another message, “Get out of the car.”
The very next day, I blogged about my urge when I’m in pain … to get in my car and drive to California. A friend drove the point home in just a few words when he commented on the post, “Procrastination thrives on pain.” He’s right. It sure does, which means if we plan to do anything except drive in circles or drive to California, we have to get out of the car.
So, what does getting out look like?
Ever since I wrote a post, “Letting Go … what it looks like,” in response to a friend asking about that topic, I’ve thought how helpful it’d be to do the same with every plan of action. Getting out of the car looks different for each of us, but we typically find common ground that either keeps us in the car or gets us out.
Getting out of the car looks like …
First, I acknowledge I’m in the driver’s seat. I’m responsible, so I think about the next easiest step I can take. I think “incremental.” I ask what one thing I can do today and I do it. I don’t add it to tomorrow’s list like I’m tempted to do. I don’t do five other things before the one thing. I don’t exhaust myself by procrastinating. Okay, sometimes I do, but this is even more reason to do the next right thing. Distractions are how we tire and frustrate ourselves. If I’m overwhelmed, I ask, “What feels manageable right this second?”
Second, I stop stalling and start doing. I stop talking about getting out of the car and telling others to get out of their cars. I stop reading books about it and watching one more webinar unless it helps with momentum. Wynn Godbold, a friend, speaker, and John Maxwell team member, said, “You don’t need another course. You need to write your book.”
I pay attention to nudges (and shoves) from friends and mentors like Wynn. The simplest first step out of the car can be the hardest, as well as the most significant.
Third, I review my goals every morning like recommended by virtual mentor Michael Hyatt. Before a week was up, I found myself thinking, I remember my goals, so I can move on. However, remembering isn’t the point. Motivation is. Each time I read my goals, I’m more determined to accomplish them. I don’t know why it works, but it does.
Fourth, I mark off one personal goal and one professional goal daily before I check social media. Not really, but it’s a goal toward my goals. The good news is I’m doing it more days than not, which means my Fitbit is working hard and so am I.
Fifth, I rein in reacting. I’ve given little attention to how often I put my goals to one side until noticing I put my blog aside in April and for no good reason. I wasn’t helping anyone, only worrying about them. The same happens when I try to avoid being judged, steer clear of making mistakes, and dodge negative attention – I’m not helping anyone and it’s bothersome to scrap my goals. And notice I said “try to avoid” because, unlike goals, judgment, mistakes, and negative attention have lives of their own and happen anyway. Goals only happen when I risk those things and get out of the car.
Until I wrote down these tips, I’ve been hit-and-miss at following them. From now on, though, I’ll practice intentionally since I know what to look for. Are there one or two that may help you get out of the car?
In This Together,
Kim
Great post, Kim. I found that I could get out of the car – and stay out of it – when I realized that my goals were much more about process than destination.
Even if the process wasn\’t particularly enjoyable, and maybe especially then, was when I found the true value of what I was trying to do.
http://blessed-are-the-pure-of-heart.blogspot.com/2017/05/your-dying-spouse-317-lessons-from-floor.html
I love it, Andrew! Yes, it\’s the process even though I focus too much on the destination. Pushing to get to the end can feel overwhelming, so your way is likely the only way we finally accomplish the end – think incrementally and focus on what needs to be done today. Only today. And enjoy it the best we can. Thanks!
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Megan Hunt Dell You\’re amazing 💜
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Kim Henson Megan Hunt Dell, I can\’t tell you how important it\’s been to think about the changes I\’ve wanted to make and to ask myself, \”What would it look like?\” It makes a big difference in implementing them. You\’re the amazing one! <3 Thanks for asking the question.
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Maria Franken I related to this a bunch….. I'm on Summer break, starting June 16th and I can hardly wait to "get out of my car" and "out of my box" and just do stuff. 😀
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Kim Henson Maria Franken, I'm so happy you'll be skipping merrily to the door to do something besides teach! 🙂 I know you're wonderful at it, but you need a break. Luv u! <3
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Maria Franken Luv u back… Luv ur front, too! 😅 lol
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Kim Henson Maria Franken, I really laughed out loud … not just lol. 🤣
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