“They say time heals all wounds.” Unknown
While I waited for time to work its magic, I did some searching on my own. I went to counseling for two decades, attended weekly Al-Anon meetings for a long time, read self-help books, sat in church on Sundays, and signed up for too many weird workshops like the one where I rebirthed myself. Don’t ask.
Time went forward, but it felt like healing reversed. As grateful as I was for the things that helped for a little while, I felt worse, not better. So, when I stumbled onto Harriet Deison’s story, it scared me.
Harriet, a 65-year-old pastor’s wife, mother of two, and grandmother of eight, drove her Lexus across town in Texas a few days after Christmas, bought a gun, and shot herself. Seemingly, she had it all – a long marriage, a big family, a church where she served, beauty, and money.
She also had time on her side, six decades of it, but “they,” the writers of the quote (it’s attributed to several), were wrong. Time didn’t heal her.
I bring up Harriet sometimes because of the impact her suicide had on my life. I don’t understand how someone like her ended up in so much pain that she killed herself, but I relate. I don’t understand how I ended up in that kind of pain either.
I scrolled more articles and more quotes. “Laughter heals,” and so does poetry, acceptance, and dancing, to name a few more. I know people who would add material things to the list like big bank accounts, status symbol cars, and the right house in the right neighborhood. I gave up on them early on.
I googled “What’s the number one thing that heals?” and “Who is the number one healer?” The search came up with fruits and vegetables, energy healers, shaman, and more than a dozen articles about healing our physical bodies. There was one story about Jesus on the third page.
When the world shut down last March, the church across the street reopened first. I attended because no place else would let me in. It never occurred to me I’d hear my answer even though I finally was desperate enough to listen.
“‘Time heals all wounds’ is a lie straight from hell. Time heals nothing.”
“Here is what does heal …”
“Time with Jesus heals.”
My answer and your answer and the answer for a thousand generations …
In This Together,
Kim
The Jesus quote is from a sermon by Pastor JP Miller at Solid Rock at Market Common in Myrtle Beach, SC. His sermons (I promise they’re worth the search and the time to listen) are on YouTube and on the church’s Facebook page.
From Donna F.’s email ~
ONLY Jesus can satisfy our souls! Amen girl! ♥️
Kim, I’m so glad you wrote this. Too often the church is filled with glossy cliches that lead us to believe that a wall with Christ is just all dandy when it’s anything but. I do see that it’s hard to hear that we will face trials and struggles after giving our lives to Christ but almost as ironic is to say how it’s the very thing that made you better, stronger and more able to handle real life. The miracle working power of the Holy Spirit is something I e spent my entire life seeming to know and understand, but in the end, i fund myself not in a place of total understanding but rather just pure awe. Only God can take tragedy and use it to transform a life. I enjoy your heartfelt, real writing and it’s a blessing to me. Love you much! Karen
Karen, yes! I’m in pure awe, too. I couldn’t explain how God’s healed me if my life depended on it, and it did. There is so much irony, you’re right. He’s really something and He intends to not be understood. It’s almost not right to just say He’s good … He is so much more than good. Sometimes I feel inadequate to write about Him, but I hope someone gets the full impact even though words really can’t convey how beautiful the miracle of transformation is.
I appreciate your comment so much and your encouragement. Thank you. I love you! ❤️
Great read! Very introspective. God does heal all wounds and he is there with us through it all. He carries us, blesses us, mourns with us and is right there through the pain of yesteryear to present. We just have to find him. You have to be ready.🙏✝️❤️
That’s it, Lyn … He’s with us and He heals. All we have to do is be ready and willing.
Thanks for your comment. Much love! ❤️
Wow! Powerful good! Thank you Kim! You always deliver right on time. You’re writing my life seemingly. God Bless you always .
I love you always ♥️
Connieg
Connie, I thought our stories were similar even when we didn’t know much about each other. You just know when there’s a connection.
I believe God’s put you right here, right now as a spiritual cheerleader, and not just for me, but for other readers too. Thanks for listening to Him and showing up! I love you. ❤️