A Series of Choices
“He ruined his life.” Mom made that comment about a lot of people over the years. It sounded so permanent that it scared me. It also made me wonder what choices were severe enough to ruin a person’s life. Determined not to make one, I didn’t have sex until we married. I never smoked, cursed very little, and also waited for marriage to drink,...
No Wonder: Head or Heart … which one decides?
“We bought this one because it felt right,” sounded like a lame explanation for why my husband and I downsized to a dilapidated fixer-upper instead of taking time to find more space at a lower price. Our friend looked confused, and no wonder. Our decision was far from sensible. Not sensible like the time we returned to school simultaneously,...
E-extrovert (outgoing online, "ingoing" in person)
Outgoing, bubbly, contagiously funny. I met her online and we hit it off. I appreciated her personality more as we emailed back and forth and “liked” each other's Facebook pages. We had a lot in common, even more than I knew till we met. Although a mutual friend warned me about my online friend's standoffishness, I couldn't wrap my head around...
Life in Big Girl Panties
“I wanted to call you so bad a few months ago and say, ‘I don’t know what’s wrong with me.’ But making the call didn’t feel right. Instead, I put on my big girl panties and said, ‘Deal with it.’” My daughter shared this yesterday while we talked on the phone into the afternoon – a rarity these days because of our long distance relationship and...
People Pleaser on the Loose
Church seemed an unlikely place over which to have a breakdown, but nonetheless, that’s the place that prompted it. My church friends also helped end my severe bout with run-on yeses. Our family participated in three, four, sometimes more events each week. In fact, every single church-related activity I was asked to join, attend and lead, I...
Compassion (i.e. come to passion)
Use your imagination a bit and compassion looks like "come to passion." It's a good reminder since sometimes when I get too close to pain, I slip from compassion to control. The reason this happens? I'm terrified of pain. I want to fix whatever is wrong, to stop others from hurting. My eagerness to make everything better leads to offering...
Try, Try and Try Again, Then Try Persistence
“Don’t ever get tired of trying to do the right thing.” The quote is from a preview of Tyler Perry's movie Meet the Browns. Music by The Five Stairsteps plays in the background. The singers sing about things getting easier and brighter. I'm singing along, believing every word. In fact, mid-bellow, things already feel easier. My day is...
Hi, I’m Kim.
I write about Getting Your Own Life While Loving the People In It which means we live our lives, honor our emotions, and show up for our relationships.
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