by skimhenson | Oct 6, 2016 | awareness and action, food, lightening up
“There’s a huge emotional component to weight loss.” Carnie Wilson This last decade, I’ve gained an average of two pounds a year – this was the least painful way to express it. The weight added up so gradually, I’m not sure if the gain started in 2005 after Dad’s...
by skimhenson | Aug 5, 2016 | listening and talking
“Say what you mean, but don’t say it mean.” Anonymous I’ve written a lot lately about speaking up. Next thing I know, I’m also speaking up on my vlog, but this time it’s about being quiet unless we frame what we say in a positive light, in a way that tells what we...
by skimhenson | May 26, 2016 | pain
“I know my boundaries and one day I might just enforce them.” Unknown I curled up under the blanket on our living room sofa and ate Reese’s Cups while mulling over what went wrong. The conversation with John was okay until we each made a comment the other one didn’t...
by skimhenson | May 20, 2016 | awareness and action, boundaries, getting your own life, relationships, parent and child
“We cripple people who are capable of walking because we choose to carry them.” Christie Williams Enabling is one of the surest ways to assure not getting your own life. Enabling goes hand-in-hand with not setting boundaries – two sides of the same coin. Like the...
by skimhenson | May 12, 2016 | getting your own life, relationships, self-care
“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” Tony Gaskins I had never heard the word boundaries used in reference to relationships until a counselor told me I didn’t have any. She said, “You have no idea where you end...