by skimhenson | May 10, 2017 | boundaries, relationships, shame
“Habits change into character.” Ovid I hate not liking people, but like my friend Betty said, “Some people are impossible to like because they don’t like themselves. The best you can do is love them, pray for them, and stay away from them.” Nevertheless, I’ve felt...
by skimhenson | Mar 5, 2017 | boundaries, pain, self-care, self-destruction
“It wasn’t until I began to love myself that I was willing to let others down.” Lucille Zimmerman When my cowgirl friend told me a story about Bob, I related to her horse like we were old buddies. Bob’s trainer said, “You have to be careful pushing him because he’s a...
by skimhenson | Feb 13, 2017 | awareness and action, boundaries, emotions, self-respect
“If you don’t do politics, politics will do you.” Unknown Although I’ve objected to adding additional political rhetoric to the pile, I also don’t want to die. I sound theatrical, I know, but almost dying is intense, painful, and terrifying. I came too close when I...
by skimhenson | May 20, 2016 | awareness and action, boundaries, getting your own life, relationships, parent and child
“We cripple people who are capable of walking because we choose to carry them.” Christie Williams Enabling is one of the surest ways to assure not getting your own life. Enabling goes hand-in-hand with not setting boundaries – two sides of the same coin. Like the...